Thursday evening and yesterday proved to be a turning point in this journey…
Ed fell during the night on Thursday and again yesterday afternoon after we returned from our Dairy Bar late afternoon lunch!
I believe he tries to make this walking with a walker thing look easier than it is…going at a quick pace is not good, nor is trying to prove it’s okay!!!
Yes, I know I do not know all that he’s going through but I see these trials as having no compromise…no more scurrying around like you are a superhero on a mission…no need to prove anything to any of us.
So with a bit of apprehension I mentioned my concerns to two of the boys that happened to be here at the time I was tearing my hair out!
In no uncertain terms was it a pleasant situation…Chad and his wife Kate were here and voiced their concerns to the Farmer … there is no good that can come from falling repeatedly.
Jeremy and his wife Allison listened while I tried to get across the fact that I am fearful that one of these times it could cause a broken hip…a hit to the noggin…or worse.
That is when Jeremy spoke up and without pulling any punches, took on the roll of advocate for his Dad. He sees things through the eyes of someone who has been there..
Waking from an induced coma of 40 days he was totally dependent on nurses and doctors in 1997 at the age of 18. He was kind of going through the same feelings as his dad is now…only in reverse…
He would get better and be less dependent…my Farmer will require more help as time goes on…he will continue to decline as hard as it is to admit.
Our conversation turned to just that…honesty and facts…through Jeremy’s eyes and because of his experience.
Chad was seeing things through a son’s eyes as I do through my wife’s eyes. How can we help him through this?
With everyone’s help thrown into the mix, it was not as hard a situation as I had envisioned. Kate and Allison added their take on the situation and it was decided that help was needed during the hours of perhaps 11 p.m. to 6 a.m….not every evening, just as a relief effort.
I am going to notify the Visiting Nurses that we do need help…he is getting up and falling during the night. No excuses from them about lack of time for a visit…that is their job.
This is step one into another phase of our journey. I have come to understand that this could very well be a “reason” for Jeremy’s accident…to help us understand what his Dad is facing and feeling.
I think all of our children have a purpose in this…I just feel now I have some answers to questions from all those years ago. my biggest question now would be, “When did our kid’s grow up to be such great adults? BUT…thank God they did.
I have a feeling that there will be more of these ‘ interventions ‘ but hopefully will become a bit less challenging. We have a strong family…in ways I never really thought about…but now we can all work together to make this journey a bit more bearable???
My Farmer is moving with a little more thought and purpose…slow(er) and more careful steps I have noticed!!!